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Keeping the Spark Alive

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Thursday, May 1, 2014, In : Marriage 
I had the opportunity to do an interview with Chris Bruce from Stay Married Florida on the topic of keeping the spark alive in your marriage after you have children. I hope that you are encouraged by the many practical ways that you can make your spouse the priority in the home and how that will greatly bless your children. Please click HERE to listen to the 20 minute interview.


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Being Vulnerable in Relationships

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Thursday, June 6, 2013, In : Relationships 

One of the biggest issues we have in relationships is being able to fully be ourselves in the presence of another person.  If we are truly vulnerable with someone we take the risk of being hurt, rejected, judged, or shamed.  So instead we only allow others a glimpse of ourselves.  The closer you are to someone and the more your trust someone, the more likely you are do be vulnerable with them. 

People are often able to be more vulnerable in counseling than any other place because they know tha...
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Can People Change?

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, April 24, 2012, In : Valuing Self 

 
“How many counselors does it take to change a light bulb?  Only one, but the light bulb really has to want to change.”  

Forgive us for the corny joke, but we state it because there is a great deal of truth in it.  When it comes to any true transformation (whether it be addiction, marriage, anxiety, eating disorder, etc.), the greatest indicator of success is the true level of a person’s desire to change.  Many come to counseling skeptical of the idea that people can really change. We h...

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How Do I Know if I Have an Addiction?

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Wednesday, February 1, 2012, In : Addiction 
 
When many think of addiction they think of someone strung out on drugs, someone dying of liver disease from alcohol use, or someone who ruins their marriage through multiple/ongoing affairs.  The reality is that the effects and prevalence of addiction reach far beyond these “extreme” examples.  In the most simplified form, an addiction is a behavior that you intentionally do with the knowledge that there will be long term loss, hurt and pain but you chose to do it anyway for the short te...

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Will We Get Divorced?

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, November 1, 2011, In : Marriage 



When a couple in conflict comes in for marriage therapy, the first thing that is most often observed is not the words that they say.  Though many times the words may be very hurtful, sad, discouraging, or raw, it is what the body communicates that is often more important.  John Gottman from the Gottman Relationship Institute highlights one of the first things he looks for during the first session with a couple.  It is body language that unconsciously communicates contempt for their partner....


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Overcome Addiction Florida

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, October 3, 2011, In : Valuing Self 



One of the greatest thieves that we allow into our daily lives is that of addiction.  Some of you might read that word and want to skip to the next entry thinking it doesn’t apply to you.  I can guarantee it does.  Consider the following description of addiction (the best definition of addiction I have every read) by the author Gerald May from his book Addiction and Grace:

"I am convinced that all human beings have an inborn desire for God.  Whether we are consciously religious or not, thi...


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Overcome Stress and Anxiety

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, September 26, 2011, In : Anxiety 



We all experience stress and anxiety to some degree in our lives.  Unfortunately this has become accepted as normal by many.  Some would even say that a little bit of anxiety is good for you.  Anxiety and stress are ultimately fear based.  Fear always creates tension and tension always leads to pain.  So in the end there really is nothing good about stress and anxiety as they keep us locked up inside and prisoner to fear and tension. 
There are many sources of stress and anxiety in...


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Cure for Anxiety

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, September 6, 2011, In : Anxiety 



I wanted to discuss something my father-in-law shared with me a few weeks ago that I have found to be very profound.  We were having a conversation about tension and anxiety, something that he is very good at freeing people from.  He said that he has found in his life and in the lives of those he has helped that the “antidote” for tension/stress/anxiety is thankfulness and gratitude.  When you look at that from a psychological perspective, there is a great deal of accuracy and truth to ...


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Emotional Benefits of Exercise – South Florida

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, February 21, 2011, In : Valuing Self 


    
     We often completely dismiss the profound connection that exists between the physical and the emotional in. Yet when it comes to any variety of emotional struggles that we are having, it is often best to first look to the physical.  This allows one to cancel out any possible physical effects on our emotional states.

            If you have not had a recent physical, that is often a great first step.  Next it is important to look at your sleep, diet and exercise.  Those three a...


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